Vidat has described himself as a software slave in his profile at the blog site he had created for himself whilst working in Wipro as a software engineer. He has concisely stated a whale of truth !It is a apt description of software engineers in India.
It wrings my heart to see scores of computer engineers in early 20's who are made to work day and night even at weekends on a domain -coding-which I am sure is a creative and like all fields of creativity requires immense mental energies that needs to be replenished by adequate rest and sleep.
But conversely the great I.T giants seem to be unaware of this or donot care and make young and talented people work for long hours from 8 in the morning to 2 A.M at night for a meagre sum in comparison to what they profit from the hard labour of these 'slaves'.
Poor kids are torn between the devil and the deep sea.Because of their technical qualifications they can't do some other job[they think] like teaching,banking,insurance or the I.A.S.and they can't leave their current jobs as there aeren't as much jobs lying vacant as to accommodate all those millions of educated youth.waiting hungrily on the wings. So they continue to plod hoping to reach a higher position with attractive salary but in the process invariably burn out.
I wholeheartedly endorse the socialists view that unions should be allowed to be formed in I.T enterprises.Then the least that will be ensured would be regulating working hours to 9 to 5 with week ends strictly off ,removal of insecurity in job ,[no hire and fire],receive commensurate salary for work done and assurance of permanency in job with regular promotions and the provision for pensions.
The fear that such measures will render I.T and corporate offices as inefficient as our government offices is unfounded. Banks have unions but that does'nt make the clerks ,officers or managers lax and corrupt. Every bank I have visited serve their customers promptly and sincerely.
It is time that our young people lured by money [pittance by western standards but princely by Indian] shake themselves of these invisible chains binding them to greedy corporate houses that have scant regard for basic human rights like rest and sleep and overburden young shoulders with too much work and responsibilities.
These I.T.giants and corporate houses are also insidiously breaking up family life ,which we Indians are reknowned .Due to long and unpredictable hours of the young I.Tproffessionels parents scarcely meet their children although living in the same house!Similarly working married couples meet only on festivals and push the custody of their house and children to total strangers [ayahs] and become strangers to them selves.The companionship and intimacy and energy required to make marriage a pleasant affair is gobbled up by the long hours spent at their offices or at some distant foreign country [in I.T.parlance 'on site' ]
How I long for those days of my youth when working people ,how so ever high ranking he may be [my dad was the chief of administration of c.s.i.r] left their homes at 9 and were back home by 6 to relax in the hall with snacks and share the days events and gossip.
Life was simple, predictable and less stress free then.The youth of this generation are very hard working .Though richer in money are poorer in spirit as they don't even have the time and energy to spend their hard earned money.
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Some memories of Vidat and Govind.
Cousin's [paternal] with a year or so gap .Grew up together in a joint family marked by lot of playing and lot's of fights.Fights erupted regarding the possession of a particular , insignificant toy when the entire house was strewn with toys of all sizes and shapes!
They were enrolled together in L.K.G. in a nearby school. They were shifted of to different sections within a month as the teacher complained that Vidat and Govind were too engrossed in each other's company talking, playing, fighting excluding every one else.
When the joint family broke down it was the desire of all 4 cousins Vidat ,Govind, Vijay and Vineet to meet and spend a few days together during summer and winter holliday's in each others house. Once in their pre teens Govind and Vijay landed at our house at Porur .Vidat had a large circle of friends in that colony who all played cricket[bet] matches in the vast open fields and grounds that were within 1 km radius from our dwelling.Govind a city lad didnt have such luxuries and his playing was confined to cramped parks and terraces, probably that is why he got highly excited when Vidat informed him of a match to be played the next morning.
To Vidat's as well as my amazement Govind dragged his fat cousin Vijay to the terrace of our house and kept bowling and batting in turns. Poor Vijay was totally exhausted.The next day Govind was up at the crack of dawn, woke up his fat cousin and asked him to perform exercises along with him.Vidat was surprised and amused at all these drills.
After breakfast all 4 cousins went of to play the match. That evening Vidat came home bursting with the news of how well he scored whilst poor Govind and Vijay could barely manage a run each .The practise sessions and physical exercises in anticipation of the great match had exhausted them thoroughly.The two tired cricketers flopped on the sofa and promptly went of to sleep whilst Vidat and Vineet after refreshing themselves with juice and food ran out to play yet another game with their colony friends!
They were enrolled together in L.K.G. in a nearby school. They were shifted of to different sections within a month as the teacher complained that Vidat and Govind were too engrossed in each other's company talking, playing, fighting excluding every one else.
When the joint family broke down it was the desire of all 4 cousins Vidat ,Govind, Vijay and Vineet to meet and spend a few days together during summer and winter holliday's in each others house. Once in their pre teens Govind and Vijay landed at our house at Porur .Vidat had a large circle of friends in that colony who all played cricket[bet] matches in the vast open fields and grounds that were within 1 km radius from our dwelling.Govind a city lad didnt have such luxuries and his playing was confined to cramped parks and terraces, probably that is why he got highly excited when Vidat informed him of a match to be played the next morning.
To Vidat's as well as my amazement Govind dragged his fat cousin Vijay to the terrace of our house and kept bowling and batting in turns. Poor Vijay was totally exhausted.The next day Govind was up at the crack of dawn, woke up his fat cousin and asked him to perform exercises along with him.Vidat was surprised and amused at all these drills.
After breakfast all 4 cousins went of to play the match. That evening Vidat came home bursting with the news of how well he scored whilst poor Govind and Vijay could barely manage a run each .The practise sessions and physical exercises in anticipation of the great match had exhausted them thoroughly.The two tired cricketers flopped on the sofa and promptly went of to sleep whilst Vidat and Vineet after refreshing themselves with juice and food ran out to play yet another game with their colony friends!
Monday, October 26, 2009
Vidat and Shashank.
Vidat had met Shashank's mother before he met Shashank,as she was the doctor having a clinic near Vidat's primary school at Porur,to whom Vidat was taken by his teachers when he suffered a gnash on his forehead when Vidat collided headlong against a girl in the narrow corridor of his school at Porur.The tear was expertly stitched .
Vidat and Shashank' s friendship or rather enimity [that was how it started] began when Vidat joined PSBB school at class 5 and boarded the same bus ,went to the same class and section for several years.
In those early days of their acquaintance Shashank ,who lived a Km or so away visited us enroute to visiting his relatives who lived in our colony.Vidat refused to talk to him calling him evil.Shashank pursued but Vidat rebuffed him and even joined his colony pals in throwing pebbles at him and chasing him away!
A love -hate relationship at the beginning that slowly blossomed into a firm friendship over the years
Shashank and Vidat were like chalk and cheese.Vidat loved the great out doors,was always on playgrounds or open spaces playing an assortment of games like cricket,Badminton or simply cycling or swimming.He was at home only to eat or snatch a nap or flop on on the bed at night to sleep. The time Vidat spent watching T.V. was minimal ,limited to viewing cricket,tennis and hockey matches or formula car racing or Gounda mani Senthil comedy ,when he could successfully snatch the remote away from his persistently T.V. watching younger brother whilst his friend loved watching T.V, like movies, serials etc and did so along with Vineet which prompted Vidat to comment''you need not come all the way from your house to mine only to watch t.v. you can do that at yours''.
Whilst Shashank visited I.I.T.culturals-sarang,rock shows and English Plays excitedly Vidat would be lustily cheering Indian batsmen at Chepauk or LeanderPaes in Nungambakkam stadiums or Dhanraj Pillai and hockey players at the astro turf play ground.
Vidat hated travelling and the maximum he deigned to was to school ,college or office as he had to and was happy hitting the ball in the open spaces around his house.Yes ofcourse he didnt mind travelling to beach or to any available open stretch of ground how so far it may be to play a cricket match whilst Shashank liked to traverse the length and breadth of Chennai,India and the world tirelessly.
Vidat was a early bird, early to bed and early to rise a' lark' whilst his pal was an' owl' staying awake most part of the night It seems that Vidat remarked once that his friend's ways were similar to his younger brother's and the two of them would hit it off together well !
Vidat had a lot of friends so what made Shashank so special? Most probable reason could be that Shashank spent nearly all his free time at our house playing, fighting, eating, watching T.V ,singing , and sleeping, Whenever Shashank turned up Vidat's father used to remark ''here comes your middle son''. They went to the same school ,attended the same college,lived nearby and when we shifted to the city his office was so near that he was for ever passing in and out of our flat.
Vidat had a younger brother to tease,play and talk to 24 hours a day .Yet Shashank was Vidat's close friend.I suppose it is only a friend who can fill in certain gaps which other relatio nships cannot.
The duo had a lot of adventures and misadventures together.Here is one for a sample.One day whilst Vidat was working at Wipro', both came home smirking at noon and Vidat hurriedly packed a bag and told me that he and his friend were off to Bangalore on the huge monstrous motor bike owned by his friend and would reach the place in2 hours time. And both were off in a jiffy!That night got a frantic call from Shashank's father to equally frantic father of Vidat enquiring about the whereabouts of the duo who promising to return after a long ride in a couple of hours hadnt returned even after several hours .When I let the cat out of the bag all hell broke loose .Both father's fretted and fumed and were besides themselves with worry for the safety of their son's on the accident prone highway whilst the duo were merrily speeding on the highway to attend a party hosted at IIM campus at Bangalore.[It is another story that they abandoned their motorbike at a friend's ,came home next day by bus with a sore back]
In the week preceeding his final departure Vidat never got to meet Shashank though both were in the same city but Vidat met his mother. A full circle.
Vidat and Shashank' s friendship or rather enimity [that was how it started] began when Vidat joined PSBB school at class 5 and boarded the same bus ,went to the same class and section for several years.
In those early days of their acquaintance Shashank ,who lived a Km or so away visited us enroute to visiting his relatives who lived in our colony.Vidat refused to talk to him calling him evil.Shashank pursued but Vidat rebuffed him and even joined his colony pals in throwing pebbles at him and chasing him away!
A love -hate relationship at the beginning that slowly blossomed into a firm friendship over the years
Shashank and Vidat were like chalk and cheese.Vidat loved the great out doors,was always on playgrounds or open spaces playing an assortment of games like cricket,Badminton or simply cycling or swimming.He was at home only to eat or snatch a nap or flop on on the bed at night to sleep. The time Vidat spent watching T.V. was minimal ,limited to viewing cricket,tennis and hockey matches or formula car racing or Gounda mani Senthil comedy ,when he could successfully snatch the remote away from his persistently T.V. watching younger brother whilst his friend loved watching T.V, like movies, serials etc and did so along with Vineet which prompted Vidat to comment''you need not come all the way from your house to mine only to watch t.v. you can do that at yours''.
Whilst Shashank visited I.I.T.culturals-sarang,rock shows and English Plays excitedly Vidat would be lustily cheering Indian batsmen at Chepauk or LeanderPaes in Nungambakkam stadiums or Dhanraj Pillai and hockey players at the astro turf play ground.
Vidat hated travelling and the maximum he deigned to was to school ,college or office as he had to and was happy hitting the ball in the open spaces around his house.Yes ofcourse he didnt mind travelling to beach or to any available open stretch of ground how so far it may be to play a cricket match whilst Shashank liked to traverse the length and breadth of Chennai,India and the world tirelessly.
Vidat was a early bird, early to bed and early to rise a' lark' whilst his pal was an' owl' staying awake most part of the night It seems that Vidat remarked once that his friend's ways were similar to his younger brother's and the two of them would hit it off together well !
Vidat had a lot of friends so what made Shashank so special? Most probable reason could be that Shashank spent nearly all his free time at our house playing, fighting, eating, watching T.V ,singing , and sleeping, Whenever Shashank turned up Vidat's father used to remark ''here comes your middle son''. They went to the same school ,attended the same college,lived nearby and when we shifted to the city his office was so near that he was for ever passing in and out of our flat.
Vidat had a younger brother to tease,play and talk to 24 hours a day .Yet Shashank was Vidat's close friend.I suppose it is only a friend who can fill in certain gaps which other relatio nships cannot.
The duo had a lot of adventures and misadventures together.Here is one for a sample.One day whilst Vidat was working at Wipro', both came home smirking at noon and Vidat hurriedly packed a bag and told me that he and his friend were off to Bangalore on the huge monstrous motor bike owned by his friend and would reach the place in2 hours time. And both were off in a jiffy!That night got a frantic call from Shashank's father to equally frantic father of Vidat enquiring about the whereabouts of the duo who promising to return after a long ride in a couple of hours hadnt returned even after several hours .When I let the cat out of the bag all hell broke loose .Both father's fretted and fumed and were besides themselves with worry for the safety of their son's on the accident prone highway whilst the duo were merrily speeding on the highway to attend a party hosted at IIM campus at Bangalore.[It is another story that they abandoned their motorbike at a friend's ,came home next day by bus with a sore back]
In the week preceeding his final departure Vidat never got to meet Shashank though both were in the same city but Vidat met his mother. A full circle.
Indelible memories.
When Vidat was studying in 5th class and was 9 years of age , went out to play in nearby vacant plots one day. .After few hours he came back home laughing and said ''Ma whilst playing an older boy got angry at me and came near me and said I am going to slap you ,and I replied' I am waiting for it' and that boy was so shocked at my reply he didnt know what to do or say and I continued playing whilst that boy watched me helplessly!''
One year or so later , one day Vineet let out a piercing shriek and wailed out loudly'' Amma stop Vidat ,stop him '.'I ran out of the kitchen where I was preparing meals and saw Vidat carrying a water filled plastic bag with two fish ,accompanied by his wild pal Saravana running towards our well at the backyard .Vineet tugged at my saree and yelled ''Stop him, stop Vidat'' as he was scared that the fish would dirty the well our only source of water.At this Vidat shouted back and said ''Ma Adayar thatha [my father] said if a well has fish in, it will be clean as the fish will eat moss, dirt etc and give us clean water,I will throw them in our well '',and he did triumphantly with his friend cheering him. Vineet retreated to a corner crying whilst Vidat and his pal clambered over the grill covering the well spread themselves on it peering into the dark well hoping to catch a glimpse of their precious fish and on sighting them swimming ,laughed and let out loud cries of victory!
Two days later I was confronted by a howling Vidat who dragged me to the well and pointed at the fish that were dead and were floating on the surface ,whilst Vineet looked relieved.The previous day I had unwittingly thrown bleaching powder into the well,my weekly routine as the well was our only source of water in the suburban Porur house,forgetting the existence of the fish.
A ''green effort''to purify our well water was inaugurated with a shriek and concluded with a howl!
One year or so later , one day Vineet let out a piercing shriek and wailed out loudly'' Amma stop Vidat ,stop him '.'I ran out of the kitchen where I was preparing meals and saw Vidat carrying a water filled plastic bag with two fish ,accompanied by his wild pal Saravana running towards our well at the backyard .Vineet tugged at my saree and yelled ''Stop him, stop Vidat'' as he was scared that the fish would dirty the well our only source of water.At this Vidat shouted back and said ''Ma Adayar thatha [my father] said if a well has fish in, it will be clean as the fish will eat moss, dirt etc and give us clean water,I will throw them in our well '',and he did triumphantly with his friend cheering him. Vineet retreated to a corner crying whilst Vidat and his pal clambered over the grill covering the well spread themselves on it peering into the dark well hoping to catch a glimpse of their precious fish and on sighting them swimming ,laughed and let out loud cries of victory!
Two days later I was confronted by a howling Vidat who dragged me to the well and pointed at the fish that were dead and were floating on the surface ,whilst Vineet looked relieved.The previous day I had unwittingly thrown bleaching powder into the well,my weekly routine as the well was our only source of water in the suburban Porur house,forgetting the existence of the fish.
A ''green effort''to purify our well water was inaugurated with a shriek and concluded with a howl!
Saturday, October 24, 2009
These are few of Vidat's favourites
Favourite Food: As a child - Pongal,aloo tikki,masaladosa and Diary milk chocolate.
As a teenager -rice ,dal,fried potatoes and appalam.
As a youth -Pizza
sweet dishes:Badhusha,Japanese cake,pista cake and jambiscuits from Mckernet,milkmaid,chocalatejam, littlehearts ,and bourbon biscuits .
savouries:Thattai [from grandsweets shop] idli's [made by maternal grand mom],potato and banana chips .
Favourite past times:As a child [2 to 5 years]Sprinkling the floor liberally with Johnson baby powder and skating on it joyfully. Vidat was greatly amused by crawling creatures and had absolutely no fear of them. He used catch cockroaches,geckos and kittens and pet them and dangle them merrily and release them after a while .[I was glad that there were no snakes around]
Pinching everyone's ear lobes especially Vineet's all the while singing a song created by him ''kadha killi ....''.
Giving Vineet a different name each day-Vingeet, dhadia, sony ........I named my 2 nd son [Vineet] as Visisht on the 10th day after birth[ naming ceremony] but Vidat kept calling his younger brother with a new name each day [it may exceed 100]
Chewing fresh bus tickets [his entire classmates at school copied Vidat and started to chew paper]
As a teenager and as a youth:Playing and playing especially cricket,Badminton,chess, carroms and swimming.Another favourite past time -sleeping.
Favourite collections: As a child -Pens,various types .
As a employed youth-Cooling glasses of different shades and brands.
Favourite colour : As a teenager -orange.
Favourite fabric: Cotton.
Favourite clothes: As a teenager and youth -Bermudas and T shirts.
Favourite songs: As a child--[from 2 years onwards] Then pandi seemaile ther odum veedhiile yaar adicharo yar adicharo.
As a teenager --Ikku ladiki ko dekha tho aisa lagah ,yaar yaar sivam
ne dhan sivam, vandenda pallukaran adadaa a mattai
patri pada poren and sooravallipola vandan perandi
Favourite actors; Tamil ---KamalHassan and Goundamani. Hindi----Amitabh bachhan and Katrina kaif.
Favourite films : Troy,Kurdhipunal,Badsha and Munnabhai mbbs .
Favourite T.V.shows : As a teenager ---Sports especially cricket .'Kaun benega crorepati hosted by Amitabh Bachhan.
As a youth ---Sports channel watching cricket,tennis ,hockey and car races .Watching travel's in Discovery channel.
Favourite sports men; Sachin,Mark Waugh,V.V.S Lakshman, LeanderPaes, Fedrer and Schumaker .
Favourite spots and places: Perching on the armrest of the sofa with his arms around his mother's or father's shoulders whoever happened to be seated on the sofa.
Lying down on the floor with legs on the diwan or sofa whilst watching T.V [copied by Vineet, Govind and Shashank.]
As a college student on top of the water tank on the 4th floor of our flat at T.nagar whilst studying for his engineering exams.
As a youth -Broken bridge and beach .
Favourite Relatives; grand parent: Adayar thatha [maternal grandfather]
Mama; Harind [maternal]
Cousin: Govind [paternal]
Favourite kids ; Sakshi [daughter ofpaternal cousin] and shrishti[ daughter of maternal cousin ]
Favourite friend: As a child --Rajesh [Adayar]
As a teenager and youth ----Shashank.
Favourite flame: Rabia
Favourite school teacher: Shanthi chandrashekar.
Favourite lecturer: Susan.
Favourite boss : Khani
Favourite doctor; Lakshmi Vijaykumar .
Favourite diety ; Srinivasa perumal at Thirumalai.
Favourite pilgrimage:Climbing the 7 hills of Thirumalai on foot.
Favourite act of kindness; Tipping our flat watch man[an old man] liberally whilst employed.
Favourite goal : As a child and teenager ---To become the king of the world .
Favourite one liners: As a child --innikki kekadasi [ekadasi] when Vidat didnt like the food or wanted to skip a meal.
As a boy---Aruvadhu sinam [to me his mother when I scolded him]
As a teenager and youth----Netri khan thirandalum kuttram kuttrame
[to his dad during arguments]
Ennoku or charitram irukku [to Vineet alluding to his happy childhood day's at Ranchi]
''' " ------------Arasialil idhelam saghajam appa [Goudaman's ]
Favourite endearments;Ammana, Appu,Sony, shashi baba,and gondees
All time favourite - Vineet [Dont know whether he liked his younger brother more than me or equal to me]
Sujata.
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As a teenager -rice ,dal,fried potatoes and appalam.
As a youth -Pizza
sweet dishes:Badhusha,Japanese cake,pista cake and jambiscuits from Mckernet,milkmaid,chocalatejam, littlehearts ,and bourbon biscuits .
savouries:Thattai [from grandsweets shop] idli's [made by maternal grand mom],potato and banana chips .
Favourite past times:As a child [2 to 5 years]Sprinkling the floor liberally with Johnson baby powder and skating on it joyfully. Vidat was greatly amused by crawling creatures and had absolutely no fear of them. He used catch cockroaches,geckos and kittens and pet them and dangle them merrily and release them after a while .[I was glad that there were no snakes around]
Pinching everyone's ear lobes especially Vineet's all the while singing a song created by him ''kadha killi ....''.
Giving Vineet a different name each day-Vingeet, dhadia, sony ........I named my 2 nd son [Vineet] as Visisht on the 10th day after birth[ naming ceremony] but Vidat kept calling his younger brother with a new name each day [it may exceed 100]
Chewing fresh bus tickets [his entire classmates at school copied Vidat and started to chew paper]
As a teenager and as a youth:Playing and playing especially cricket,Badminton,chess, carroms and swimming.Another favourite past time -sleeping.
Favourite collections: As a child -Pens,various types .
As a employed youth-Cooling glasses of different shades and brands.
Favourite colour : As a teenager -orange.
Favourite fabric: Cotton.
Favourite clothes: As a teenager and youth -Bermudas and T shirts.
Favourite songs: As a child--[from 2 years onwards] Then pandi seemaile ther odum veedhiile yaar adicharo yar adicharo.
As a teenager --Ikku ladiki ko dekha tho aisa lagah ,yaar yaar sivam
ne dhan sivam, vandenda pallukaran adadaa a mattai
patri pada poren and sooravallipola vandan perandi
Favourite actors; Tamil ---KamalHassan and Goundamani. Hindi----Amitabh bachhan and Katrina kaif.
Favourite films : Troy,Kurdhipunal,Badsha and Munnabhai mbbs .
Favourite T.V.shows : As a teenager ---Sports especially cricket .'Kaun benega crorepati hosted by Amitabh Bachhan.
As a youth ---Sports channel watching cricket,tennis ,hockey and car races .Watching travel's in Discovery channel.
Favourite sports men; Sachin,Mark Waugh,V.V.S Lakshman, LeanderPaes, Fedrer and Schumaker .
Favourite spots and places: Perching on the armrest of the sofa with his arms around his mother's or father's shoulders whoever happened to be seated on the sofa.
Lying down on the floor with legs on the diwan or sofa whilst watching T.V [copied by Vineet, Govind and Shashank.]
As a college student on top of the water tank on the 4th floor of our flat at T.nagar whilst studying for his engineering exams.
As a youth -Broken bridge and beach .
Favourite Relatives; grand parent: Adayar thatha [maternal grandfather]
Mama; Harind [maternal]
Cousin: Govind [paternal]
Favourite kids ; Sakshi [daughter ofpaternal cousin] and shrishti[ daughter of maternal cousin ]
Favourite friend: As a child --Rajesh [Adayar]
As a teenager and youth ----Shashank.
Favourite flame: Rabia
Favourite school teacher: Shanthi chandrashekar.
Favourite lecturer: Susan.
Favourite boss : Khani
Favourite doctor; Lakshmi Vijaykumar .
Favourite diety ; Srinivasa perumal at Thirumalai.
Favourite pilgrimage:Climbing the 7 hills of Thirumalai on foot.
Favourite act of kindness; Tipping our flat watch man[an old man] liberally whilst employed.
Favourite goal : As a child and teenager ---To become the king of the world .
Favourite one liners: As a child --innikki kekadasi [ekadasi] when Vidat didnt like the food or wanted to skip a meal.
As a boy---Aruvadhu sinam [to me his mother when I scolded him]
As a teenager and youth----Netri khan thirandalum kuttram kuttrame
[to his dad during arguments]
Ennoku or charitram irukku [to Vineet alluding to his happy childhood day's at Ranchi]
''' " ------------Arasialil idhelam saghajam appa [Goudaman's ]
Favourite endearments;Ammana, Appu,Sony, shashi baba,and gondees
All time favourite - Vineet [Dont know whether he liked his younger brother more than me or equal to me]
Sujata.
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Friday, October 16, 2009
Tips to mother's writing on their son's blog i.e-to myself.
1.Curb this yen to give tips.
2.Stop advising and preaching, especially to youngsters as they are sure to misunderstand or do exactly the opposite!
3.Stop poking one's nose in other's business and affairs [social and personal relationships] because if some youth actually follows one's advise and if things don't work out properly one is sure to be burdened with guilt.[i.e one will be in soup]
4.One must most determinedly give tips only on matters one is actually qualified to do so ,like 'how to cook a simple south Indian meal in 20 minutes' and not on subjects like sociology,psychology or economy for which one neither has insight or nor any academic or professional training.
5.One must constantly remind oneself 'that every body gets to know everything by themselves and not to be bound by tips. That includes these tips as well!
2.Stop advising and preaching, especially to youngsters as they are sure to misunderstand or do exactly the opposite!
3.Stop poking one's nose in other's business and affairs [social and personal relationships] because if some youth actually follows one's advise and if things don't work out properly one is sure to be burdened with guilt.[i.e one will be in soup]
4.One must most determinedly give tips only on matters one is actually qualified to do so ,like 'how to cook a simple south Indian meal in 20 minutes' and not on subjects like sociology,psychology or economy for which one neither has insight or nor any academic or professional training.
5.One must constantly remind oneself 'that every body gets to know everything by themselves and not to be bound by tips. That includes these tips as well!
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Tips to well educated and wellemployed men on choosing a life partner
Marry a girl who is pretty or at least pleasant to look at.Only then you will be motivated enough to work and care for your family and thus carry your name forward to the next generation.
Marry a girl who is less qualified than you,but not so less qualified that she opens her eyes wide in amazement when you tell her that the world is round.
Marry a girl who is neither too thin or too fat. If she is skinny you 'll have to do all the housework and keep paying doctor's fees. If she is too fat she'll be forever cooking and eating.So marry some one slim.
Marry a girl who is several years younger than you .Then you wont have to face embarrasing questions like--'your elder sister is here but where is your wife ' when you attend functions together.
If it is decided that the wife will work allow her to work as a teacher or as a clerk in a bank or govt with no ambitions of climbing up .Generally these jobs are less taxing on time and energy and she will be there for you when you come home late and tired from office. If you choose a soft ware engineer or a Mba or an I.a.s as your life partner you may meet,[ with luck] once a week though living in the same house.
Marry from your own class .If you marry from a very low class your house will be a resting place for hordes of relatives. If you choose a bride from a very high class a car will be permanently stationed at your gate to whisk you off at a moments notice to your in.laws house to attend on them .
So marry a slim, pleasant looking woman much younger and less qualified than you and one who hails from the class and culture to which you belong.
All the best.
Marry a girl who is less qualified than you,but not so less qualified that she opens her eyes wide in amazement when you tell her that the world is round.
Marry a girl who is neither too thin or too fat. If she is skinny you 'll have to do all the housework and keep paying doctor's fees. If she is too fat she'll be forever cooking and eating.So marry some one slim.
Marry a girl who is several years younger than you .Then you wont have to face embarrasing questions like--'your elder sister is here but where is your wife ' when you attend functions together.
If it is decided that the wife will work allow her to work as a teacher or as a clerk in a bank or govt with no ambitions of climbing up .Generally these jobs are less taxing on time and energy and she will be there for you when you come home late and tired from office. If you choose a soft ware engineer or a Mba or an I.a.s as your life partner you may meet,[ with luck] once a week though living in the same house.
Marry from your own class .If you marry from a very low class your house will be a resting place for hordes of relatives. If you choose a bride from a very high class a car will be permanently stationed at your gate to whisk you off at a moments notice to your in.laws house to attend on them .
So marry a slim, pleasant looking woman much younger and less qualified than you and one who hails from the class and culture to which you belong.
All the best.
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