reaction's to grief

People belonging to all classes of our society react in the same manner to other's grief.They are either unabashedly and insensitively curious to know the details of the tragedy and at times even over shadowing the interrogation of culprits or persons in news by brash t.v news reporters or resort to condemning the victim in case of untimely and unnatural death openly at front of the already hurt parents smarting under shock and pain.
Then fuel is added to fire or rather water to unshed tears which is threatening to breach its dam of self control and restraint ,by clucking their tongues in sympathy pitying patronisingly a person already drowning in a ocean of self pity, instead of extending a s trong arm of s upport or shoulder, to grasp and lean on silently ,assuring without condemnation by a gentle touch and refraining from commenting or liberraly dishing out unasked for advise and suggestions .
The subtle difference I see between lower and upper class is that the former will quickly capitalise on other person's grief monetarily as they are accustomed to death as in their midst it occurs frequently ,whilst the upper class will capitalise on it pschologically,deriving a moral boost with the thought that they are the chosen ones by god or dame luck ,not to be subject to such miseries in life, secretly relieved and at same time pondering or even passing judgement that the stricken person even deserve d it !
Then people start remembering the death of their far off relatives by accident,drowining etc and draw parralels in the mistaken belief that the bereaved person would be consoled in knowing that there are sevaral people sailing on the same boat .Yes ofcourse .Every one gets a tooth ache but the awful pain has to be borne by the individual,can it be shared or halved by another?Can the fact that several others are suffering from tooth ache lessen mine?It has to be borne by me alone.

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genaral elections

Voting !Candidates for the top job ,two old men with one leg in grave. It is ironical that most voters in this elections ,who are young and virile are voting for grampa's to rule India.One has a bad heart [by pass surgery under gone twice +age about 75] another is 82 with the telltale stoop of old age .Can such men lead a nation full of youngsters? Wouldn't they like to spend their twilight years by reading news papers, or watching t.v and nodding of to sleep whenever it over takes them?Probably theyoung, voters of India relate to these kind flexible old men better than to overbearing and rigid middleaged candidates just as in their family life they get along famously with grandpa and mom, than with their own dad and mom.

mother's day

I got a telephone call from one Muniappan early in the morning. I was racking my brain as to who that could be when a gruff voice as though divining my thoughts said Amma, I am the person to whom you gifted text books for B.A Tamil Lit FIrst year,last June,.I wanted to talk to you several times amma but didnt as I was shy but to'day being mother's day I have shed my inhibitions to recite to you a poem .He called me' amma' several times the way Vidat would ! Then the poor blind orphan boy whom I recollect of being tall and dark and of having met only once recited to me a poem of 4 lines eugolising motherhood which he claimed to have written himself !
My eyes filled with tears and I could hardly speak but somehow managed to thank him.
A small gift made by me to a orphan boy has touched a chord in him which makes him see in me the mother he never had.

Which mother could have a better gift than this on a mother's day?