reaction's to grief

People belonging to all classes of our society react in the same manner to other's grief.They are either unabashedly and insensitively curious to know the details of the tragedy and at times even over shadowing the interrogation of culprits or persons in news by brash t.v news reporters or resort to condemning the victim in case of untimely and unnatural death openly at front of the already hurt parents smarting under shock and pain.
Then fuel is added to fire or rather water to unshed tears which is threatening to breach its dam of self control and restraint ,by clucking their tongues in sympathy pitying patronisingly a person already drowning in a ocean of self pity, instead of extending a s trong arm of s upport or shoulder, to grasp and lean on silently ,assuring without condemnation by a gentle touch and refraining from commenting or liberraly dishing out unasked for advise and suggestions .
The subtle difference I see between lower and upper class is that the former will quickly capitalise on other person's grief monetarily as they are accustomed to death as in their midst it occurs frequently ,whilst the upper class will capitalise on it pschologically,deriving a moral boost with the thought that they are the chosen ones by god or dame luck ,not to be subject to such miseries in life, secretly relieved and at same time pondering or even passing judgement that the stricken person even deserve d it !
Then people start remembering the death of their far off relatives by accident,drowining etc and draw parralels in the mistaken belief that the bereaved person would be consoled in knowing that there are sevaral people sailing on the same boat .Yes ofcourse .Every one gets a tooth ache but the awful pain has to be borne by the individual,can it be shared or halved by another?Can the fact that several others are suffering from tooth ache lessen mine?It has to be borne by me alone.

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